TANTE MEILI

TANTE MEILI let's say that you have an (intimate) involvement that begins as a mutually lusty tryst (known as visceral sex) and is subsequently driven primarily by physical attraction. The intimate participants would be wise to acknowledge 'that' (lust) fact early on before ever-changing romantic sensibilities have a chance to rewrite the story and misrepresent the true genesis of the relationship.

TANTE MEILI in time, a very respectful, committed, and emotion-based partnership (known as relational sex) may certainly evolve. What is the caveat of a lust-born or visceral relationship? Make sure that it is not being offered or accepted as a substitute for real intimacy; and, remember that deepening feelings for one may NOT be shared or returned in the same way. What is important is to appreciate the differences between the levels of affection and to understand that LIKE and - ultimately - LOVE, together, offer the greatest chance at long-term happiness.

Elaine and G. William Walster - in their book 'A new look at love' - remind us that the affection of love can appear in two very different forms: passionate love and companionate love.

Passionate love can be a wildly emotional state; a confusion of feelings: tenderness and sexuality, elation and pain, anxiety and relief, altruism and jealousy.