TANTE QIUYUE and most important relationship condition is friendship. It establishes and maintains the foundation of all of our other healthy and productive involvements and requires the exchanging of interests, experiences, trust, and concern. Friendships don't just happen; they are neither a matter of convenience nor of popularity. Real friendships take time and typically have three stages of growth.
TANTE QIUYUE acquaintanceships, or those 'pre-friendships' in the initial stimulus stage, can blossom when we experience physical and verbal rapport, a sense of mutual respect, and some shared interests.
In the second (or value) stage, we have come to appreciate and respect intangible things like: ethics, character, and morals.
The third, and the most intimate expression of an evolving friendship, is the role stage where we share: family, specific activities, dreams, fears, support, and some measure of responsibility to and for each other.
You should take a proactive attitude when initiating or building upon friendships. Do not hesitate to use affirmative language to assure new friends or to reassure established friends of their importance. Be mindful that not all friendships are equal and should conflicts arise in the two relationship conditions that follow (companionship & partnership), you should do your best to work through those challenges from your foundation as 'friends'.
