TANTE JINGFEI

TANTE JINGFEI often find ourselves involved in personal relationships that lack clarity and definition. The most common causes of these 'gray' bondings tend to stem from assumed, unspoken, and undefined expectations. Unless you are ambivalent and don't have expectations of any sort, try asking for clarity within your personal relationships in the same way and with the same level of expectation as you would from your employer regarding your job responsibilities. What do you desire and/or expect of me? And, here is what I desire and/or expect of you.

The three types of 'involvement':

The definitions that follow are composites and may differ slightly depending on cultural influences and/or religious beliefs. The objective in identifying the three levels of involvement is to establish a better understanding as to just how they differ from each other so that you may be better able to make clear and timely decisions regarding your desired level of involvement.